Nobody chooses to become an addict. My husband had never tried opioids and never gone to a pain doctor before. He didn’t know any better. Most people don’t. He trusted the doctor and followed his instructions. He never took more than what he was prescribed but as soon as the medications wore off, or if dared to stop taking them, his pain got worse, and he got very, very sick. This s is why it is very hard to treat addiction.
- Addiction is a brain disorder that creates the development of uncontrollable habits of using substances or participating in behaviors despite negative consequences. I know some will say, then why do they start using it in the first place? Well, I can’t answer this question, but I know my dad started drinking because he was financially stressed. My husband started drinking because his Mom died unexpectedly. On the outside, it is so easy to judge the individuals as the ones who love to make bad choices, calling them, ” pill popper, junkie, crack head, pot head, drunk, etc….”
- It is extremely difficult to treat and overcome addiction, people who struggle with it, should be able to talk openly about it without fear of being judged or excluded. They should receive empathy and support from loved ones as well as medical professionals.
- As a wife of recovering alcoholic myself, I can personally tell you that is hard to provide unconditional support without enabling him. There’s a very thin line between helping and enabling, and it took me years of trials (still learning), to love him without crossing that line. I am still in touch with my support group for advice and listening ears.
- If you are affected by your loved one’s addiction, reach out for help. You can’t do it alone. There are millions of people who are going through the same thing, most of them just don’t like to talk about it, but you are not alone, and support is available. Getting help sounds overwhelming at first, but, just today, visit al-anon.org if you’re affected by someone’s drinking; and/or https://al-anon.org if you’re affected by someone’s drug use (all controlled substances).
In the meantime, if you want to talk, feel free to email me at mymidthirties@Gmail.com. We can become friends, no judgement. My husband has been sober from alcohol and opioids for 18 months. He is active in his recovery and I am active in mine, but we are both still suffering from the effects of his addiction.